LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP (LDR) DO’S & DON'TS...By Andy Kwas. BB PIN 2326600E

THINGS YOU CAN DO

1)  ESTABLISH AN EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION CHANNEL: The very first thing to do in a long distance relationship is to establish an effective communication channel. Apart from phone, use other mediums like Instant messenger, emails, etc.
2)  TO MEET EACH OTHER: There is nothing more important than planning to meet each other soon. This will help both you and your partner to catch up with each other over the things that you cannot do while apart. The anticipation of seeing each other again will always give you the excitement, hope and as well as eliminating the lonely pain.
 3)  BUILD A DREAM BOTH OF YOU CAN SHARE: By building a common purpose, both of you will have something to discuss and work on throughout your distance relationship. You do not need your partner’s physical present to share a purpose. There should be something apart from sex and touching that connect both of you. It be a project, a work. Find yours.
4)  SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER: Occasionally surprise you partner with cards, gifts, letter and flower out of their expectation apart from your normal correspondence. Put your imagination to use and your partner will be sure to love your effort in keeping them happy. Be romantic.
5)  CAPTURE AND SHARE THAT INTERESTING MOMENT: Throughout the period of your LDR, you can always capture some interesting moment of yours by exchanging photos, video clips and as well as audio recording. This will indirectly keep your partner informed on what has happen in your life despite the physical distance. Do not send nude pictures via the mails. Don’t. I warned you.

WHAT NOT TO DO.

1)  DO NOT SETTLE FOR A TEMPORARY REPLACEMENT: One of the mistakes that a distance relationship couple often make is to settle for a temporary replacement when their partner is not physical around. By letting a third party into your life, you will not only put your distance relationship to risk but you will also break the mutual trust and agreement that you make.
2)  DO NOT TAKE THE RELATIONSHIP LIGHTLY: The absence of your partner does not give you the license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You must remember that, your partner has their own right to participate in any decision making toward the well being of your relationship regardless where there are. A long distance relationship is also as important as a normal relationship and your partner has their own right to be treated fairly.
3)  AVOID THE "WAIT AND SEE ATTITUDE": Most of the failures in distance relationship that we observed are contributed by the wait and see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the insecurity of the couple as they do not think that the LDR will work but at the same time they do not want to put a stop to the relationship. Let me tell you this, if you plan to have this kind of attitude, refrain from walking into one at the first place because both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship.
4)  DO NOT BE SUSPICIOUS: Don't give rooms for suspicion in a long distance relationship. In order for you to survive your distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner whole heartedly. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other and it is a beginning of the end if you start to suspect your partner at any point of your LDR. Although it is easier said than done but trust me, if your partner is apt to do something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.
5)  SUCCUMB TO NEGATIVE COMMENT ON LDR: Couples in distance relationship always make a mistake by believing that LDR do not work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you choose to listen to the negative comment. Therefore, once you have decided to enter into a long distance relationship, you must learn to believe that your relationship will work. Now drop your comments below. I am De Love Guru.

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