QUESTION: Do you think everyone has a “soul mate” out there somewhere, that individual who can complement you and fulfill you like no one else? Is there just one person who is ideally suited for me?
ANSWER: Surprisingly, many singles hold to the notion–either consciously or subconsciously–that there is one perfect, preordained partner. They were made for each other, the thinking goes, and they must simply locate this person or forever feel incomplete.
This thinking is fueled by many Hollywood love stories in which a man and woman are united after a series of near misses and obstacles. At long last, they gaze deeply into each other’s eyes and embrace, usually amidst the swell of violins playing in the background or fireworks exploding overhead. And they know without a doubt that they–the two of them and only the two of them–were meant to be together.
I hear dozens of singles every week complain about how hard it is to find a suitable partner. And if there is just one individual waiting for you out there in the wide world, the search for each other could take a very long time. If, however, there is not a “one and only” partner, a whole range of possibilities opens up. How did I come to conclude that the soul mate scenario is a fallacy? Let me show you from the life of Adam that God gave Adam a wide variety of choices to choose from. You don't agree? Let's talk:
Genesis 2: 18-25
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
NOTE THE FOLLOWING POINTS
1. It is not good for man to be alone. So what did God do?
2. God felt companionship will solve the aloneness problem of Man. There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. When you are alone, what you need is a partner, companionship. But when you are lonely, you are emotionally sick. Adam was not lonely. He was alone.
3. "And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam".......
BUT what was God doing?
4. Helping Adam find a life partner and God was giving him many options among "every beast of the field". How did I know? Because the Bible went further to say, "but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
Do you know that Adam tried getting along with most of these creatures but could not? The relationship did not work?
5. God saw it wasn't working. That was when he thought of the woman.
6. Meaning, before Adam met eve, he dated the lion, gorillas, elephants etc, but did not succeed. I did not say he slept with them. I said he dated them. To date refers to an activity two people share together with the intention of getting to know each other better on a potentially romantic level. Adam could not relate with these animal at that level. It's funny it's clearly written in the scriptures...."but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him".... This was why I said Adam had many failed relationship before he succeeded with Eve.
7. Do you know that if Adam had approved a gorilla by saying, "this is now the bone of my bone and the flesh of my flesh", God would have said, "Amen" and that would be it?
8. And did you also noticed that God didn't have to go out of the garden to help Adam find his wife? Meaning, whoever can fit into your life as "the one" is someone not far from you.
CONCLUSION: There not one person suited for you as "the one". That is why God did not choose a mate for Adam and he won't for you either. God does not choose a mate for anyone. He only guides if you let him. That why the Bible said,."he that findeth".
If humans can create products and also make spares, do you think God does not do the same with matching? My car have several keys that can move it for example. If that guy walks away or that lady walks away, stop weeping and thinking you have lost the will of God for you. You haven't. There is a "many spare" somewhere waiting to meet you. Come alive and enjoy your life. Someone is waiting just to say to you,."will you marry me?"
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