WHY DO BREAKUP HURT SO MUCH? Falling in love is a chemical reaction. Your brain runs on a cocktail of dopamine, the natural amphetamine PEA, and the bonding hormone oxytocin. Eventually, you develop a tolerance for these chemicals. But when you break up, they surge again. Dissolving feelings for an ex is equivalent to withdrawing from a cocaine addiction. Like any other threat to our well-being, emotional pain fires up adrenaline and cortisol.
The result: nausea, increased blood pressure, loss of appetitie and accelerated heartbeat. Breakups aren't just emotional—they physically hurt.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT: Surviving the fallout of a broken relationship isn't entirely different from being in a car crash or losing a loved one. It often results in post-traumatic stress disorder.
Even your childhood plays a role. Do you know that our attachment to romantic partners is generally a reflection of our attachment, or desired attachment, to our parents. "We tend to transfer the surrogate parental role onto our partners. This makes for relationship enmeshment and a difficult detachment during breakups."
HOW LONG DOES IT TAKE TO MOVE ON AFTER A BREAKUP? Your role in the breakup determines how quickly you move on. Dumpers recover more quickly than dumpees. The length and intensity of a relationship, as well as the identity and support system you had outside the relationship, are other important factors.
WHY CAN'T YOU GET OVER YOUR EXPERIENCE? Yes, it's hard to get over a breakup, but it does happen. And if it's not happening for you, you might be holding yourself back. To get over a breakup, you have to take some personal responsibility, even if you were wronged.
WHAT TO DO: To move on, you need to do everything differently. You can't be the same person you were with your ex. It takes time and effort to stop checking your cell for messages, looking at your ex's Facebook page, or driving by his house." Will Erasing Your Ex's Footprint Mend Your Broken heart? Is there a golden answer for getting over an ex?
Unfortunately, no. I would've told you a long time ago if there were.
In a breakup-related survey i conducted last year, 71 percent of respondents (including those who were married) said they think about their ex too much and 50 percent had called, texted or IMed an ex "when they shouldn't have. But here are teps you can take to heal quickly.
-Break off contact (email, phone, or social networking) with your ex or his family and friends.
-Get rid of (or temporarily store away) items, including pictures, that remind you of your ex.
-Stop having sex with your ex (as if you didn't already know this!).
-Give yourself a "breakover"—i.e. cut your hair, plan a trip, see a therapist, start an exercise routine, take up meditation, date that guy who's not entirely your type—in other words, do whatever you need to feel whole, happy and positive again.
-It's not bad if you give yourself time to grieve after a breakup. Go through the stages of denial, anger, and loss at your own pace. Sweat, talk, and cry the pain out. Don't feel pressured to date immediately, but don't feel discouraged to pursue love again.
-Finally, You need Jesus Christ because he is a specialist in the healing of hearts. Give HIM your heart and ask HIM to heal you now. You may need to ping me if are finding it hard to consult with HIM. I can lead you to him.
-Forgive your Ex and Let go of every form of bitterness. Nothing hinders you like resentment and anger. Forgiveness him or her and lay aside the what they did to you. Forgiveness is 70 percent healing and 30 percent restoration. Don't forget what I just taught you now. Thanks for reading. Tell someone about my Site, this post and be free to share it. Take your time to also read all the other rich articles on my sites. They will help you a lot.
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