HOW MEN FALL IN LOVE – The 7 stages they experience...By Andy Kwas. BB PIN 2326600E

How men fall in love with a woman is annoying. And it’s more annoying to know that men have to actually make women fall in love with them before they even think about going out with them, but that’s the way men fall in love and they really have no choice about it.

Stage 1 – APPRECIATION: While women may fall in love in the first conversation, men are attracted to a woman only for her physical aspects, and nothing else. Physical appearance is paramount for men, but it may not necessarily be the entire package. Each guy has his own preferences in what he likes about a woman, be it her face, her legs or her smile. A guy may not even know what it is about a girl that he likes, but if he finds something attractive in her, he enters the appreciation stage.

Stage 2 - WOOING: If a man appreciates a woman and makes up his mind to woo her, then he enters into this stage but it doesn't mean he is in love yet.  He has seen what must be caught and now he must go after it.

Stage 3 – ATTRACTION: If the girl shows the slightest sign if  reciprocation to the guy’s advances, he enters into the attraction stage of love. In this stage, he decides to pursue the girl and make her like him.

Stage 4 – IMPRESSION:  All he does here is show off his mating potential to her. He plans dates and splurges on gifts to impress the girl that he is man enough. And this stage, most ladies have not only falling flat for the guy but may have started dreaming of the altar, yet this man is yet to fall in love.

Stage 5 – EVALUATION: First, the man must appreciate the girl. Then he woo's her. If the girl reciprocates to his advances, he enters into the attraction stage of love and a relationship starts. Then he starts finding ways to impress his new girl. Now they start dating and the girl because she like the guy is moved not only to give her body but also her soul and spirit, yet our "CHALIE" is yet to fall in love. Ladies listen, giving in too soon is a very wrong and dangerous step and you can see why. He is still so far from loving you. After a while he starts to wonder if there’s something more to look forward to in the relationship. If he finds, then he moves to the next stage called Reaffirmation.

Stage 6 – REAFFIRMATION: Until this stage of love, getting the girl to like him was a goal he’s been focused on. Once the girl is in love with him, only then does a man seriously start to consider if he wants to have a relationship with the girl who now loves him. It’s a selfish move, but it’s something evolution has taught all male species. “Don’t waste time thinking. Spend your time searching for more places to bust a nut.”

Now that the girl is in love with him, he takes a couple of days to reaffirm his choice by sitting back to weigh the pros and the cons of being in a relationship with that girl. Is she really the one? Does he really love the girl too? How far is he willing to go with this girl? Will he be happy with her? Is she the woman he wants and needs? Here, he is reaffirming his choice. If his is cleared and cool with his evaluation, he them moves to the next stage I call, "conviction".

Stage 7 – CONVICTION: If a man’s convinced that he truly likes the girl and wants to be with her, he enters this final stage of love where he’s ready to fall in love with the girl. On the other hand, if he’s not really convinced that the girl is the right mate for him, he may start avoiding her or losing interest in pleasing her because of his confusion. Have you ever dated a really great guy who started behaving funny a couple of weeks into love? Well, you know what happened now, don’t you? But once he is fully convinced that she is the one, then he moves into the final stage.

Stage 8 - COMMITMENT OR ETERNAL DATING: There are men whom once they are convinced about the lady they are in love with will automatically moves the relationship into the commitment stage. They are serious and wants to settle down. But there is this other set of men I call eternal daters. They are in love, they may be comfortable, they work, they are matured but will NEVER commit to the girl. It's either they are afraid of commitment or they are simply not ready. (Read: 8 strategic how to Turn the game in your favor if you really want to beat the guy in his own game)

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