Building a Relationship is like watching a movie with a remote control in your hand. You can hit the PLAY button to watch the movie straight on or you can intermittently Stop, Rewind, Fast ward, Slow motion, Eject, Pause, Repeat or even Record the movie. Permit me to use the same terms on your remote control to analyze the 9 categories of Lovers.
1. LOVERS ON STOP
2. LOVERS ON PAUSE
3. LOVERS ON REWIND
4. LOVERS ON FAST-FORWARD
5. LOVERS ON EJECT
6. LOVERS ON RECORD
7. LOVERS ON SLOW MOTION
8. LOVERS ON REPEAT
9. LOVERS ON PLAY
1. LOVERS ON STOP: These are tired lovers who feel they can’t love again. They have resigned themselves from the game of Love. Such people feel they are not lucky in the game of love. They want to love but they always say, “I don’t have a heart to love again”. They have given up on love.
REASON: They are in pains. They have been hurt bitterly in the past. Such people have unfinished biz with their past. They have issues they are yet to resolve. These unfinished businesses are called wounds.
2. LOVERS ON PAUSE: These are people who are stuck to a particular painful experience in their past. Time has moved and age is telling fast on them but internally, they have not moved a step since the event happened. Such events could range from rape, abortion, divorce, relationship break up, turned down proposals, death of someone so dear, loss of a sweet relationship, etc. The pain is so fresh that it seem as though it just happened yesterday. To such people, the past is their releality. They have never lived and will never live until they can resolve the issues they have with their past. Some are stuck to 2011, 2005, 2000, 1990. Are you a lover on pause?
3. LOVERS ON REWIND: These lovers have a hole, a vacuum in their heart that they believe nothing in their present can fill. They believe their best years is in their past, their yesterday. If they must be happy, they must recall their source of Joy to something beautiful in their past. Such people tell beautiful stories a lot but it’s all connected to their past. They criticize their present and don’t believe it can be as good as it was yesterday. Are you a lover on rewind?
REASON: They are hurting. They have unfinished biz with their past. They have to break with their past, resolve it and move on. Life is not lived by looking backward. Imagine driving a car and looking at the rear mirror. You will simply hurt yourself.
EJECT LOVERS: Lovers on Eject Mode are mostly divorcees and people whose heart have been broken. They don’t believe in love at all. In their philosophy, Love is a fantasy, a dream and a mirage. They have ejected themselves from the game of love. They see Love Gurus like us as lairs and deceivers. They hate marriages, and don’t believe in love. Another category of such people are perverts like gays and lesbians. To them, Love can only be found in another source because for some reasons unknown to them, the real source did not work for them.
REASON: They use to believe in love until someone hurt them so bitterly. Such people who hurt them could range from a lover, a dad, a close relative, an uncle, etc. Now they are in Pain and highly negative toward anything called love. Such people have unfinished biz with their past. The truth is: they are badly in need of love and have concluded it’s simply impossible to find love except through a perverted medium or none at all.
LOVERS ON RECORD: Have you noticed that whatever you have on record is stored and preserved? I consider this group as singles guys who are anointed to date a woman but will never commit to her. The relationship is on, playing but from an unreal perspective. Single ladies, Look for a man that value your worth enough to commit to you. Note that guy that keep promising you marriage, daring you with no concluding date, claiming things are still tight for him and is scared to seal a commitment to you with a wedding ceremony. Marriage has nothing to do with being wealthy but it has everything to do with making a commitment to settle down. Anyone who is not willing to sign that marriage contract doesn't value your worth to settle down with you. If you see a guy who is ready to take you to the altar, give him the best of your life. He deserves it. Lovers on Record are endless daters. The cannot commit.
REASON: Fear, fear and fear
LOVERS IN SLOW MOTION: These people are the closest group to being normal but are still very sick. They are very slow in what they do. Their real problem is fear, lack of trust and suspiciousness. They believe in love but are scared. Such fears ranges from fear to propose, fear to love again, fear to make of commitment, fear to say yes to a proposal, fear of falling in love. Can’t trust anyone. Suspects everyone. They are slow in making a commitment to anything. Their best slogan, “once bitten, twice shy. REASON: They are scared to love again because of unfinished biz with their past. They are so scared to love again so they don’t increase their pain.
LOVERS ON REPEAT: People in this category are mostly addicts. These are people who live their lives in circles. They have so much activities but little productivity. They are stuck to the same mistake all their life. They are addicted to something that is killing them but they simply can’t stop. Repeat lovers continues in the pattern of repeating a painful past that makes their life move in circles. If you are presently addicted to anything, you are in this category.
FAST-FORWARD LOVERS: These are desperate lovers. They don’t know how to play normal. They are in great haste and very impatient. They don’t know how to wait. If they need something but don’t know how to get it, they will scheme and manipulate. They are desperate to marry and will do anything to woo a mate, male or female. They attend weddings a lot wishing all the time is their wedding. Their life is all about relationship and marriage. They don’t know how to make a relationship play normal. They rush it so it ends before it even starts. Because they are desperate, they end up making very stupid mistakes that ruin their relationship. Such people can’t hold themselves. They can even propose marriage on their first day of meeting.
REASON: These are running from a pain in their past. They are using hurting people who use the future and what it can be for them as a tool of escaping from their present pains and sorrow. They have unfinished biz with their past. They have wounds, issues yet unresolved with their past.
PLAY LOVERS: Among the 9 group of lovers, this is the only healthy group that is normal. I will tweet the 10 steps on how to enter into this group. Follow me on twitter now. But below are a few points to get you started. These group have been able to resolve their past issues. They have dealt with their past. One sign you are in this group is being able to freely talk about issues you were once ashamed to talk about or a subject no one dare not mentioned in your hearing and now you are calm both hearing and talking about it.
HOW TO WORK YOUR WAY INTO THIS GROUP
1. Never bury a painful past. Resolve it by talking. “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed”. Secrets are emotional poison. They will hunt you down till they crush you. A secret is anything you know that no one knows. If your secret is evil, you find find someone whom you can trust and confide in to talk to. You should also know that thats why we are here. Lets chat. You can talk to me either on bb or whats app.
2. Work on yourself. Stop pointing fingers at anyone. Take responsibility.
3. Forgive anyone that has hurt you, both dead and alive. Forgive yourself too.
4. Ask God to help. Jesus is an expert in resolving painful past. Ask him to help you right now.
5. Fall in love with yourself again. Follow me on twitter now to read the remaining 5 hot points now.
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