FINANCIAL STRUGGLE; There's no denying THE FACT that money is responsible for a big chunk of relationship problems. The tough economic climate doesn't help, but even in the best of times, most couples will go through a rough patch.
THE INLAWS;You met the parents, the parents met the parents, and the wedding went smoothly with both sides of the family. Whoa, did you have it easy! But even if you made it through all that, you're not done yet. Couples can still expect to struggle with extended-family issues, like how often the grandparents will visit, and what boundaries to set.
WHEN THE KIDS BEGIN TO ARRIVE; As blissfully happy as you may be with your new baby, this adjustment period, during which you struggle to figure out who picks up the baby when she cries or finds childcare, is a rough one.It can definitely lead to some rocky moments.'You just need to give yourselves time to figure out how to share the responsibilities.
WHEN THE KIDS BEGINS TO GROW UP; Once your children are old enough to talk and maybe even dress themselves, you can both take care of them and manage to get a daily shower. That'll get your relationship back to normal, right? Not so fast! If you do not watch it; your parenting decisions can divide you as a couple. You should both be comfortable with what you teach your child.So find a compromise that encompasses both of your values, such as, 'We won't lie to the kids, but some details they don’t need to know until they’re older' before you put the little one in the middle of your opposing views.
SEX ISSUE. Whether you're dealing with tough issues outside of your marriage, or simply can't find the spark, most long-term couples find their sex lives ebb and flow. Sex can be a major source of trouble if not properly managed.
WHEN FACING A MAJOR DECISION. Be it whether to accept a new job or when to start trying for another baby, two can be a crowd when it comes to decision-making. Frankly, even less life-changing but still important decisions, like home remodelling, can be a source of stress. For big decisions, try making your own pros and cons lists, and then discussing them together. For smaller choices, try to work out a compromise before you're in an overcrowded public setting, or agree to disagree until you get home and can discuss calmly and in private.
THE EMOTIONAL DRYNESS. Much like you might get sick of eating even your favourite salad for lunch every day, you may go through the uncomfortable period of just not feeling connected to your partner. As the years pass, kids, jobs, and other commitments take up more of your time, and while you may think your relationship will nonetheless remain strong, it can suffer. Make time to consciously be together, even if it's just sitting on the couch, touching and being emotionally connected rather than just being in the same room.
THE UNPREDICTABLE TRAGEDY. You've probably figured out how to deal with little daily stresses by now, but unfortunately, it's also common to get walloped by unpredictable ones — like facing an addiction, an affair, job loss, or chronic illness. Maybe your mother passed away unexpectedly, or your husband was diagnosed with diabetes. Sadly, there's no easy solution when events like this pop up, and they might continue disrupting your lives for some time. It may be frustrating or heartbreaking, but the key is to know you're in good company. 'Recognize that rough patches — or rough years — are normal in even the best couple relationships:
AS AGE COMES. You're not ready for the early bird special just yet, but your wild-child days seem increasingly far away. Nostalgia for the sweet flirtation of a new relationship or the excitement of your first job might make you feel stagnant in your older, wiser state. A little midlife crisis is normal, but it doesn’t have to spur a rough patch in your relationship. Instead, exploring a personal passion can help you bring excitement back into your partnership, and shift a negative or stuck dynamic.
A BIG FIGHT OVER NOTHING. There are major issues couples commonly squabble over — like sex, money, and kids, all of which we’ll get to in a minute — but if you're going through a rough spot over what seems like nothing at all, you're not alone. 'Marriage is a lightning rod that absorbs stress from every source — past and present. When stress gets high enough, even the best couple can look like the most dysfunctional one. Just about anything can turn into an epic battle, including something as insignificant as which knife to use to properly cut a tomato. To stop the stressful cycle, take a deep breath and before your scream, think about whether the knife is really the problem. And if you already blew up, apologize and explain what's actually bothering you before it turns into a bigger issue
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